I wish you all the best for the future. I hope you can do it, if you think it does not go on, remember how your family would feel.

Remember, you're not alone.

I know how you feel man, after getting out of a relationship of over a year and a half depression hit me hard losing the "love of my life", I felt like the world was crashing around me. If you ever need anybody to talk to feel free to PM me, You'll get through this man I promise. Once you hit the bottom there's only one way you can go and that's up !

Sometime's the problem can be right in-front of you but you don't notice. It can be in your brain but you don't realize.

You say "This is the girl I've been waiting for" could that be something to do with it ? your mind isint at ease because you've waited and don't want to lose what you've waited on.

"I on the other hand, am scared to go on to them.." This also, i agree you shouldn't go on them but instead of being on the edge and scared you should say to yourself, No i'm not going on them why would I need them.

Lastly i'll mention "Is there something wrong with the relationship?" You're doubtful. Depression is a big thing that can take over someone's entire life horrifically but i think if you made an effort to take control I mean being less doubtful telling yourself instead of questioning yourself.
"Is there something wrong with the relationship?" You mean, "There's nothing wrong with this relationship" You both need to accept your similarities (depression) and over-come it instead of fighting it.

This is just my opinion btw.

BTW PM me if you need anything

I've had really bad depression for about 4 years. Didn't wanna live, considered suicide, self harm. When I get into a relationship EVEN if it's going perfect I just feel I guess stressed and worried. I take time away from friends which isn't right and I just idk I've came to a realization that right now relationships aren't for me.


I stopped caring about a lot of things and woke up one day and depression just really didn't bother me anymore and it's been that way for awhile. I can say when I'm not in a relationship I'm happy as ever.


I'm not telling you not to be in a relationship but I am telling you if you aren't staying happy and depression is eating you away then I'd end the relationship and try with a different person OR don't be in relationships.


Now that I'm single and I'd say beat depression. I go and help others, Instagram, twitter, even on here if any of my words help. I feel that helping others will also help you. It makes me feel like I'm important to know that I just picked this person up out of a deep hole and put a smile on their face to the point where they talk to me daily.

But anyways I recommend trying to find something that helps you and makes you happy and end the relationship or stay in it and try going to therapy.

If you want or need to talk you can always PM me:)

A relationship doesn't fix depression/anxiety. My fiance still has both but we're still going strong.

Snow wrote A relationship doesn't fix depression/anxiety. My fiance still has both but we're still going strong.

Agreed, personally if you ask me I believe a relationship makes it worse. UNLESS both people are up for a tough fight and know how to handle it but honestly most don't know how and that is completely normal. VERY glad to hear you and your fiance are going strong. Best of wishes to you guys <3

Thanks for all the replies and non bullshit answers.. I'm not gonna lie.. I cried reading some of the replies...

Now.. We both accept the fact that we have depression. She actually hasn't had suicidal thoughts since we started dating and before, whenever she drove the car with her brothers in it... She thought about crashing it.. I'm so **** glad that she didnt do anything.. She never self harmed.. But came really close to it..

I on the other hand. Have suicidal thoughts.. Not daily.. but probably every 2-3 days.
I have self harmed before and I put her name on to my arm. ( I'd provide a picture but I'm not sure on TTG's allowance of that .-. )
Put random pagan signs all over my body..
And when i was writing this earlier on, I had the thought that "Why am I doing this... People have better things to do instead of helping someone like me.. I don't deserve help.. I should stop.."

We both really love and each other and cry whenever once of us get mad or really down.. I've been opening up to her about a lot of things recently.. past stuff. Like being bullied in school and some other things. Now.. With "Relationships don't fix things"

Yes, I agree... But i've been alone my whole life waiting for her.. I know.. really **** cringy but meh...

I can't just break up with her.. Yes. I do feel stressed because I worry about her even though she says she hasn't had suicidal thoughts. ( She sees a psychiatrist 2 times a week and takes her fluoxetine everyday ) But like... there is something drawing us closer. I don't want to use the word "sexual" or anything because I hate rushing things.. But i feel like she gets mad at me for not paying attention in that way.. I mean, we use to do it a lot.. but the past 2 months have been on and off, which adds more stress..

I talked to her today. And she wants me to see someone and not rush right away to meds.. But it is a good idea she said.. I will go see someone if it's really needed ( starting to think that )..

But anyway... Thank you guys for advice... I may not follow some of your advice.. But i respect that you took the time to reply to a random **** dude on the internet.. thanks <3

Vegvisir wrote Thanks for all the replies and non bullshit answers.. I'm not gonna lie.. I cried reading some of the replies...

Now.. We both accept the fact that we have depression. She actually hasn't had suicidal thoughts since we started dating and before, whenever she drove the car with her brothers in it... She thought about crashing it.. I'm so **** glad that she didnt do anything.. She never self harmed.. But came really close to it..

I on the other hand. Have suicidal thoughts.. Not daily.. but probably every 2-3 days.
I have self harmed before and I put her name on to my arm. ( I'd provide a picture but I'm not sure on TTG's allowance of that .-. )
Put random pagan signs all over my body..
And when i was writing this earlier on, I had the thought that "Why am I doing this... People have better things to do instead of helping someone like me.. I don't deserve help.. I should stop.."

We both really love and each other and cry whenever once of us get mad or really down.. I've been opening up to her about a lot of things recently.. past stuff. Like being bullied in school and some other things. Now.. With "Relationships don't fix things"

Yes, I agree... But i've been alone my whole life waiting for her.. I know.. really **** cringy but meh...

I can't just break up with her.. Yes. I do feel stressed because I worry about her even though she says she hasn't had suicidal thoughts. ( She sees a psychiatrist 2 times a week and takes her fluoxetine everyday ) But like... there is something drawing us closer. I don't want to use the word "sexual" or anything because I hate rushing things.. But i feel like she gets mad at me for not paying attention in that way.. I mean, we use to do it a lot.. but the past 2 months have been on and off, which adds more stress..

I talked to her today. And she wants me to see someone and not rush right away to meds.. But it is a good idea she said.. I will go see someone if it's really needed ( starting to think that )..

But anyway... Thank you guys for advice... I may not follow some of your advice.. But i respect that you took the time to reply to a random **** dude on the internet.. thanks <3

Good luck mate and all the best!

Vegvisir wrote Thanks for all the replies and non bullshit answers.. I'm not gonna lie.. I cried reading some of the replies...

Now.. We both accept the fact that we have depression. She actually hasn't had suicidal thoughts since we started dating and before, whenever she drove the car with her brothers in it... She thought about crashing it.. I'm so **** glad that she didnt do anything.. She never self harmed.. But came really close to it..

I on the other hand. Have suicidal thoughts.. Not daily.. but probably every 2-3 days.
I have self harmed before and I put her name on to my arm. ( I'd provide a picture but I'm not sure on TTG's allowance of that .-. )
Put random pagan signs all over my body..
And when i was writing this earlier on, I had the thought that "Why am I doing this... People have better things to do instead of helping someone like me.. I don't deserve help.. I should stop.."

We both really love and each other and cry whenever once of us get mad or really down.. I've been opening up to her about a lot of things recently.. past stuff. Like being bullied in school and some other things. Now.. With "Relationships don't fix things"

Yes, I agree... But i've been alone my whole life waiting for her.. I know.. really **** cringy but meh...

I can't just break up with her.. Yes. I do feel stressed because I worry about her even though she says she hasn't had suicidal thoughts. ( She sees a psychiatrist 2 times a week and takes her fluoxetine everyday ) But like... there is something drawing us closer. I don't want to use the word "sexual" or anything because I hate rushing things.. But i feel like she gets mad at me for not paying attention in that way.. I mean, we use to do it a lot.. but the past 2 months have been on and off, which adds more stress..

I talked to her today. And she wants me to see someone and not rush right away to meds.. But it is a good idea she said.. I will go see someone if it's really needed ( starting to think that )..

But anyway... Thank you guys for advice... I may not follow some of your advice.. But i respect that you took the time to reply to a random **** dude on the internet.. thanks <3