ssam1k wrote Probably not in these forums, but since I have you all here...

I need someone who responds to the fact that I enjoy the reassurance of physical contact and emotional sharing, but who helps keeps dependency in check in the relationship so that we do not lose our identities as individuals and whose character is deserving of my loyalty and affection. I need someone who desires and reciprocates intimacy as much as I do. I need someone who is extremely supportive of my goals by showing patience and a positive outlook and who also frequently acknowledges and praises my small and large accomplishments. I need someone who will be patient and supportive as I figure out my needs rather than who will rush the relationship prematurely. I need someone who is eager to give, collect and discuss information with me patiently versus communicate with me on superficial levels out of convenience. I need someone who will join me in taking time to find a complete and genuine resolution to issues as opposed to avoiding conflict by settling for quick, temporary agreements. I need someone who regards sex as a meaningful bond between people in love and who appreciates being the center of attention in the bedroom. I need someone whose highest priority is our relationship and is willing to do the hard work to keep a transcendent level of love alive in the relationship. I need someone who can show affection in ways other than just verbal expressions such as spontaneous compliments, frequent I love yous, occasional notes for me to find and recognition of my achievements. I feel that I'm searching too narrowly, but there has to be someone who feels the same. Starting to feel hopeless.