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so i have no idea if any of you giys can help me but i feel like i need to get this off my chest, so my partner and i have had no struggles for the past 6 months after arguments of the pregnancy and everything else, she is now 39 weeks and decided she doesnt know if she wants to be a mum anymore, i already love my unborn child and i love my partner so much aswell but i feel as if im going to be torn between having to choose and i really dont want to have to do that but i feel as if im going to have no choice, i just quit my job to go into full time college as we had support from her mums side of the family saying she would pay for funds of the baby and things like that and now this happens. she's making out as if its my fault she feels this way and that i dont support her enough but i do try my best, always tell her everything will be fine and that i love her etc etc just like i have done when she told me she didnt know if she wanted to be a mum anymore, and now i feel like im being torn into two parts because when i question what she wants and if she doesnt want to keep it i want to know where i would stand on raising this baby on my own? thankyou guys for taking the time to read this, i just needed to get that off my chest
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Dude if it comes down to it you keep the baby youll be a great single father
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ryanhowey wrote so i have no idea if any of you giys can help me but i feel like i need to get this off my chest, so my partner and i have had no struggles for the past 6 months after arguments of the pregnancy and everything else, she is now 39 weeks and decided she doesnt know if she wants to be a mum anymore, i already love my unborn child and i love my partner so much aswell but i feel as if im going to be torn between having to choose and i really dont want to have to do that but i feel as if im going to have no choice, i just quit my job to go into full time college as we had support from her mums side of the family saying she would pay for funds of the baby and things like that and now this happens. she's making out as if its my fault she feels this way and that i dont support her enough but i do try my best, always tell her everything will be fine and that i love her etc etc just like i have done when she told me she didnt know if she wanted to be a mum anymore, and now i feel like im being torn into two parts because when i question what she wants and if she doesnt want to keep it i want to know where i would stand on raising this baby on my own? thankyou guys for taking the time to read this, i just needed to get that off my chest


bro you sound like you are a really caring person at the end of the day if you have to raise the baby on your own you will do a great job at it her hormones are probably all over the place just keep you head help high keep telling her your going to be there for her no matter what i mean she is probably just scared but all i know is that when she see's your baby for the first time she will never want to let it go


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ayCasii wrote Dude if it comes down to it you keep the baby youll be a great single father
yes I agree if you want it and you said your in love with the baby already well think If she got rid of it you will be in bits and I bet you would not forgive your partner . I would have it you sound like a good guy and I bet you will be a really good father
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I feel for you bro just do your best I'm 16 and got a 9month old daughter I'm still with her mum I admit it's hard at first but gets easier

Best of luck mate
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Crux wrote I feel for you bro just do your best I'm 16 and got a 9month old daughter I'm still with her mum I admit it's hard at first but gets easier

Best of luck mate


your 16 raising a baby and still with the mum thats gotta be tough but fare play for taking responsibility bro Respect
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MGCPlays wrote
Crux wrote I feel for you bro just do your best I'm 16 and got a 9month old daughter I'm still with her mum I admit it's hard at first but gets easier

Best of luck mate


your 16 raising a baby and still with the mum thats gotta be tough but fare play for taking responsibility bro Respect


It's hard but I've got a very supportive family
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Thankyou for the support and advice guys, i really appreciate it, i figured it may be her hormones as she has been excited for a long time and has expressed herself well in how much she cant wait to meet it but this sudden change of heart worries me a lot, she knows i will always be there for her even if she doesnt want to raise the baby with me, she will always be welcomed to see it and spend time with it if she changes her mind, its just hard for me as the decision to raise the baby or choose my partner is just devistating and i feel she will end up with postnatal depression and many more worse things to go with it, its going to be tough but i just hope she comes around and see's the light in all of this, i really do
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Tell her everything will work out just fine because you've got it all planned. Even if you actually have nothing planned. Might be a rollercoaster at first, but it will be worth it.
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HUCCII wrote Tell her everything will work out just fine because you've got it all planned. Even if you actually have nothing planned.


everything is all planned dude, we have everything we need, everything we could ever want and she knows this, i dont know what is going through her mind other than she is scared about everything with the pregnancy
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