ryanhowey wrote

HUCCII wrote Tell her everything will work out just fine because you've got it all planned. Even if you actually have nothing planned.

everything is all planned dude, we have everything we need, everything we could ever want and she knows this, i dont know what is going through her mind other than she is scared about everything with the pregnancy

The thing most mothers think is 'what if I'm not good enough' they know they will be creating a life, and what the parents do can heavily determine how the child grows up to be. You need to keep assuring her that she will be a good mother!

How old are you? I'm not a single parent, but I know a few and it seems very difficult. When you go to work, who is taking care of your baby? Honestly you can't miss what you never had. You haven't met the baby, and clearly she has made her point she does not want the baby. If you want the baby and she gives you your wish, then there will be a lot of tension between you two. Now try and find another girl that will deal with you AND a kid. Look at Alan from two and a half men.

I would be against getting the child, but I don't know your financial state. To me you should have a child between you and the person you love and are going to spend the rest of your life with when you guys are stable.

Not only that, but look at it from the child's point of view. Beings that you will have to work, other people will be raising your child and essentially your child will be your pet. Now when your kid goes to school and notice everyone has a mommy and a daddy, you have to explain why it's just you. They may feel a disconnect from the rest of their peers because of this fact.

All in all, I wouldn't do it, but it's her choice.

All that I can say is that you sound like a really caring and genuine Guy. I have mad respect for how caring you are. If it comes down to it you will be a great single Father and best of luck for you M8.

From experience, most women like to hear the words "Everything will be okay".

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002 wrote How old are you? I'm not a single parent, but I know a few and it seems very difficult. When you go to work, who is taking care of your baby? Honestly you can't miss what you never had. You haven't met the baby, and clearly she has made her point she does not want the baby. If you want the baby and she gives you your wish, then there will be a lot of tension between you two. Now try and find another girl that will deal with you AND a kid. Look at Alan from two and a half men.

I would be against getting the child, but I don't know your financial state. To me you should have a child between you and the person you love and are going to spend the rest of your life with when you guys are stable.

Not only that, but look at it from the child's point of view. Beings that you will have to work, other people will be raising your child and essentially your child will be your pet. Now when your kid goes to school and notice everyone has a mommy and a daddy, you have to explain why it's just you. They may feel a disconnect from the rest of their peers because of this fact.

All in all, I wouldn't do it, but it's her choice.

I agree with this. The child will only be at a disadvantage, and feel cut off.
Personally, I don't agree with teen pregnancy. (Assuming that is the situation)
There are more responsible choices than to keep the baby. It doesn't come down to morals, or if you can do it. It comes down to if you can truly provide, AS PARENTS (not having financial support from your parents), the things that the child will need. This shouldn't be a thing that you both have to debate about. If you are not sure, or she is not sure then that child doesn't need to be brought up in that environment.

Having a child is something that two financially stable and independent parents need to make.