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I am in high school still. I want to go for Engineering in college (not sure what type of engineering yet). My girlfriend and I live in Pennsylvania, she is going for financing. We both discovered we might both be going to Penn State. If we do, our relationship will work out. If not and I go to a different state college, it will be over. Should I go to Penn State, or should I look for a college down south? I do not know how good Penn State is for engineering so if someone could help out or give their opinion it would be much appreciated. Thanks.
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Take the education route for sure, you could potentially go to the college that she goes to, you both break up and you could be stuck at a terrible college.

Find out if it has good engineering facilities, if not look elsewhere, obviously this is just my opinion but thinking to the future you may not even be with here in a year or so.

It's your relationship so you should probably do what you feel is best, instead of seeking suggestions from a gaming forum, ask friends and family what their opinions are.
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Why will it have to end if you head to a different college? Could yous not stay together and be loyal and see each other every so often until the courses finish
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Do not choose a relationship over your education. Look for good colleges for engineering and try to get accepted into one of those. Again, do not prioritize your relationship over your education.
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Activated wrote Why will it have to end if you head to a different college? Could yous not stay together and be loyal and see each other every so often until the courses finish


it wont work like that m8
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To be entirely honest and without passing judgement, if the choice between your significant other and education even exists as a choice in your mind then they must not be worth it.

If you truly loved them you would sacrifice anything to stay with them.
It doesn't look as though you're willing to do that, so I would go for education and break off the relationship.
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Activated wrote Why will it have to end if you head to a different college? Could yous not stay together and be loyal and see each other every so often until the courses finish


it wont work like that m8


Well it was worth a shot, education as she wont be able to support herself and you most likely forever if you've nothing to your name
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If it was me, I'd definitely choose my future/education over my girlfriend.. Your choice though, especially if the facilities are much better at the other choice.
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College first, women second. Got to think about yourself first, once you have your life set and have a job and a degree, then focus on continuing to date the one you are with now or finding a new one.

Girls come and go, and you are only in high school. It isn't time to start thinking about settling down just yet. You are too young for that kind of thing.



As for going to the same college as your girlfriend, if you do some research on the college and see what their engineering degree is and how it works at that school and you like it, go for it. If not and you think there is a better school, go to the better school and call it quits with your current woman. Many more to come if that is the case, man.
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Definitely choose college. If it comes down to you two ending things, it's going to suck for a bit but its going to be okay. Besides, you're in high school, there is so much more out there that you haven't seen yet. No matter happens, at the end of the day, when it's all said and done, you're going to be okay and happy. Everything happens for a reason.

If you really like her and want to make it work, then look into Penn State and see what it's like, I'm sure it's a great school. It's easy to do some research and figure out what their school is like. Any school is going to be better than no school.

For what its worth, I go to college at the University of Arizona and my girlfriend lives back home in Texas and we're still doing just fine. Yeah, this distance sucks but we've decided to work through it and we're doing great.
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