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Wren wrote
TaigaAisaka wrote How can you say you love her when you're just friends and having a crush? It honestly sounds like if you guys ended up together, "I love you" would be said within the first couple of days if not sooner; which a lot of people would think of it as "a kid relationship" or "puppy love" or whatever the hell it's called now. Saying you like her, have a crush on her or love the idea of her sounds find, but having a crush, being friends for 3 months and saying you already love her, can seem off to a lot of people, partner included. There is a thing as saying "I love you" too early, and it can be a turn off to some new couples as it makes the other person either seem clingy, desperate and some people can see it as creepy. I'm not trying to make fun or talk shit; I'm just trying to see why you want to already say you love her, despite having a short time as friends and not even together as of now.


I don't need to spend every second with her or 'be together' as you put it to understand everything about her, admire her appearance, personality and emotions, admire her on her bad and good days, have my heart sink every time I see her. Attraction, lust, not wanting any harm to come to her, caring and wanting to be there, wanting the best for her in every way possible the list goes on. Love doesn't have a set time requirement, love in my eyes is being affectionate towards another. I pity your eyes.


First off, it's been 3 months. You don't love her, you're infatuated with her because it's a new experience and someone is showing you the attention you want. Look at the grandparents who have been together 50+ years. Are they all lovey dovey and rainbows? No, they fight and bicker but come to a mutual agreement that works for everyone. Love is being able to do that and handle your partners quirks. Infatuation is exactly where you're at. You see all the good but none of the bad. Also, you won't know a quarter of her in just 3 months. Sometimes the truth hurts, but there is a word for your feelings towards her and love is not it.

Second, if you're 16 you shouldn't be drinking alcohol. If she's declining it she's a keeper!

As far as the boyfriend thing, it's fairly common for girls to talk crap on their boyfriend to other people, especially if they got in a recent argument. It's just gossip and starting conversation. I'm not saying this is the case, I'm just saying there could be other possibilities.

The sleeping thing is kinda weird, but some girls have a natural motherly instinct to make sure everyone is warm and as comfortable as possible.

It sounds to me based on what you wrote that she might be interested in you, I just wanted to give you another view of how it could be. My advice to you, don't do ANYTHING until the relationship between her and her current boyfriend is over. Trying to push them apart makes you look like a dick, you might be getting mixed signals and picking up the wrong ones in that she might not be interested in you as a boyfriend, but rather just a friend. It's all speculation until something happens. Continue the friendship as you have been until they break up, then you can tell her your feelings toward her. Just my opinions though, I don't have a whole lot of experience in this field lol.
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Bro, never have a thing with another mans girlfriend.. even if they aren't getting along..

I was cheated on and I beat the **** out of the guy like a month ago after he came back to visit my city... he left for college right after he fingered my girl and came back to visit during thanksgiving and I found him. I don't hold grudges but this kid was my bestfriend and it hurt me badly.

However, do you. Just don't get your ass whooped
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