Thanks for the feedback guys and thanks for actually reading the long story but I've noticed you guys put all the blame on here you guys did read the beginning right I cheated on her first, I know what you guys think though the same as me like ok cheat on him Once to get back at him but not twice. But keep the feedback coming haha I might link her this later and have her read.

I'd say go do what you feel is right, if you know deep down you love her then go for her again, give her another chance. If your completely not sure I'd not go for her, give it a break and see whether you still deep down love her or not. If you cannot trust her I'd suggest you'd give her one last chance and if she screws you over once then break up and don't let her get on to you because that's how she's screwing yourself over. My advice is to give it a break and be friends then in a year or two, when everything is settled down, see if you truly still love her, or if you don't.

Personally, I think you kind of started the big issue personally but everyone makes mistakes.

Sco77y wrote I'd say go do what you feel is right, if you know deep down you love her then go for her again, give her another chance. If your completely not sure I'd not go for her, give it a break and see whether you still deep down love her or not. If you cannot trust her I'd suggest you'd give her one last chance and if she screws you over once then break up and don't let her get on to you because that's how she's screwing yourself over. My advice is to give it a break and be friends then in a year or two, when everything is settled down, see if you truly still love her, or if you don't.

Personally, I think you kind of started the big issue personally but everyone makes mistakes.

i agree man if I never cheated on he first it wouldn't have gone this far. But thanks for the feedback plus rep to you!

So, the relationship went downhill since you cheated?
If so try to sort things out with her, Don't get back with her straight away just speak as normal & see what happens, If she really wants you back & won't cheat on you again she will do what ever it takes to get you back.

If I was in your shoes though bro I would honestly leave her for good & find someone who treats you right. If you don't trust her anymore then honestly it's a waste of time getting back with her because she'll just carry on doing what she's doing. Just have a break and see where things go.

I'm going to be brutally honest, but I don't think this relationship is meant for either of you. At first it started with her trying to control you where she would take her life if you didn't say with her. How serious was she, that's debatable. Cutting her wrist can be a way to try and "prove" to you she would take her life but then again, that's all it could be, just to try you in the relationship. Then you went and cheated on her. There's no excuse for that. If you don't want to be with someone, just break up, there is no reason to cheat on them and hope they don't find out. The same goes with her, she did the exact same, which almost sounds like at first it was to "get back" at you for cheating. Your first clue that this wouldn't work out, is when it was agreed "hey we're even since we both cheated, let's get back together!" That's just opening doors for issues to arise. Which, she went ahead and has done multiple times since then.

The relationship isn't meant for either of you, it's become toxic, full of lies, you don't trust her anymore (not sure if she trusts you,) it might once again get to a point of trying to control who and as many times as the relationship has been cheated on; I think it's best for your sake and hers to just move on. You can't really see how a person can change through a message, it's really easy to type what people want to hear without any real emotion to go off of. If you take her back, you're pretty much showing her you'll bend over for her, which again, comes back to the control/power struggle of the relationship that started all of this; from there you're going to wonder ever day "Am I going to get cheated on again?" I wouldn't want that stress in a relationship because you'll only see things as negative with her.

I understand the situation but yet I'm stood confused?

You wanted to break up with her at the very start from when she slit her wrists etc, but now you wanna get back with her?
Now you've broke up, think of those time you didn't want to be with her etc, you've got what you wanted from the start and you don't have that hassle in looking after her all the time, especially when she treated you that badly to cheat on you with another man.

I say live free and just think about that you've atleast got what your mind always wanted from the start.

TaigaAisaka wrote I'm going to be brutally honest, but I don't think this relationship is meant for either of you. At first it started with her trying to control you where she would take her life if you didn't say with her. How serious was she, that's debatable. Cutting her wrist can be a way to try and "prove" to you she would take her life but then again, that's all it could be, just to try you in the relationship. Then you went and cheated on her. There's no excuse for that. If you don't want to be with someone, just break up, there is no reason to cheat on them and hope they don't find out. The same goes with her, she did the exact same, which almost sounds like at first it was to "get back" at you for cheating. Your first clue that this wouldn't work out, is when it was agreed "hey we're even since we both cheated, let's get back together!" That's just opening doors for issues to arise. Which, she went ahead and has done multiple times since then.

The relationship isn't meant for either of you, it's become toxic, full of lies, you don't trust her anymore (not sure if she trusts you,) it might once again get to a point of trying to control who and as many times as the relationship has been cheated on; I think it's best for your sake and hers to just move on. You can't really see how a person can change through a message, it's really easy to type what people want to hear without any real emotion to go off of. If you take her back, you're pretty much showing her you'll bend over for her, which again, comes back to the control/power struggle of the relationship that started all of this; from there you're going to wonder ever day "Am I going to get cheated on again?" I wouldn't want that stress in a relationship because you'll only see things as negative with her.

I like this Peace of feedback man and that is how I feel just the thought of her brings up the thought of her cheating on me so when I think of her I think about how she hurt me and did what she did and the trust is out the window if it was a life or death situation and I was depending on her I would say screw it and die. So I'm just gonna talk to her as a friend like I have been the other night she said I love you and I wasn't paying attention all that much and I accidentally said I love you too lol. But anyway thanks for the feedback man plus rep to you big time.

Sin- wrote I understand the situation but yet I'm stood confused?

You wanted to break up with her at the very start from when she slit her wrists etc, but now you wanna get back with her?
Now you've broke up, think of those time you didn't want to be with her etc, you've got what you wanted from the start and you don't have that hassle in looking after her all the time, especially when she treated you that badly to cheat on you with another man.

I say live free and just think about that you've atleast got what your mind always wanted from the start.

i love the feedback but to help clear the confusion I did not want to get back with her she messaged me out of the blue and we started talking so I made this post to see others opinions on my situation to direct me towards the right direction on wether I should get back with her or just stay friends.

Nobody who threatens to kill themselves over you is not worth the time. If you truly love someone you could NEVER put someone you love In this position. There's no way she'll of changed, she'll always be the same despite however much it'll seem she has changed. From your OG Post i see that you cannot trust her, rightfully. Your gut instinct is always right my friend.


Good luck bro.

As for the slitting wrists part, if anything like that goes on, contact someone close to her that she can trust, parents etc.