Styr wrote As for the slitting wrists part, if anything like that goes on, contact someone close to her that she can trust, parents etc.

looks like you didn't read the full story bud however I like your avi la Capone used to be my favorite rapper but his music got old since he died and I kept replaying them so much lol now I like Montana of 300.


On topic next time read it all lol not the first few sentences.

Once a cheat always a cheat imo.

I'd tell her to jog on tbh.

ive been there countless times with different girls im going though it now ive never cheated i couldnt be this girl dosnt trust me at all even though im the one whos saying i want a relationship, she just wants friends with benifits, my advice is just wait it out dont text her dont see her, make her come to you she will realise what shes missing and shell come running back but be more serious and loyal

spank that little bitch, show her who's daddy

Pull out bro that's my advise, I have had an exact copy of this relationship. I literally told her who she'd cheat on me w/ next and lone behold that came true.

Girls like this are players the only reason you guys are fighting is because she probably doesnt get her way 24/7 and that should be the case and she should respect that.

You won't last in this I'm telling you, move on and try ur hardest to forget about her. She sounds like a basket case if you ask me w/ the self harm stuff.

Last thing here is trust, you will never trust her and she won't trust you, both of you have good reasons behind this to hence you've both cheated, so if you wan't a life of paranoia and checking her phone and social media accounts go for it. Personally a gilr in my sh*t 24/7 is annoying as all hell so.. yea.

Hope I helped bud.

Tweaking wrote Pull out bro that's my advise, I have had an exact copy of this relationship. I literally told her who she'd cheat on me w/ next and lone behold that came true.

Girls like this are players the only reason you guys are fighting is because she probably doesnt get her way 24/7 and that should be the case and she should respect that.

You won't last in this I'm telling you, move on and try ur hardest to forget about her. She sounds like a basket case if you ask me w/ the self harm stuff.

Last thing here is trust, you will never trust her and she won't trust you, both of you have good reasons behind this to hence you've both cheated, so if you wan't a life of paranoia and checking her phone and social media accounts go for it. Personally a gilr in my sh*t 24/7 is annoying as all hell so.. yea.

Hope I helped bud.

Thanks for the feedback i tried to rep you but it wouldnt let me i will try again later.

No one can rep me brother. I'm anonymous to rep.

You both cheated on each other, you obviously don't like each other that much. No offense, but that's quite literally what you're telling us.

Forget her, she's obviously not "the one".

XeCookie_ wrote

TaigaAisaka wrote I'm going to be brutally honest, but I don't think this relationship is meant for either of you. At first it started with her trying to control you where she would take her life if you didn't say with her. How serious was she, that's debatable. Cutting her wrist can be a way to try and "prove" to you she would take her life but then again, that's all it could be, just to try you in the relationship. Then you went and cheated on her. There's no excuse for that. If you don't want to be with someone, just break up, there is no reason to cheat on them and hope they don't find out. The same goes with her, she did the exact same, which almost sounds like at first it was to "get back" at you for cheating. Your first clue that this wouldn't work out, is when it was agreed "hey we're even since we both cheated, let's get back together!" That's just opening doors for issues to arise. Which, she went ahead and has done multiple times since then.

The relationship isn't meant for either of you, it's become toxic, full of lies, you don't trust her anymore (not sure if she trusts you,) it might once again get to a point of trying to control who and as many times as the relationship has been cheated on; I think it's best for your sake and hers to just move on. You can't really see how a person can change through a message, it's really easy to type what people want to hear without any real emotion to go off of. If you take her back, you're pretty much showing her you'll bend over for her, which again, comes back to the control/power struggle of the relationship that started all of this; from there you're going to wonder ever day "Am I going to get cheated on again?" I wouldn't want that stress in a relationship because you'll only see things as negative with her.

I like this Peace of feedback man and that is how I feel just the thought of her brings up the thought of her cheating on me so when I think of her I think about how she hurt me and did what she did and the trust is out the window if it was a life or death situation and I was depending on her I would say screw it and die. So I'm just gonna talk to her as a friend like I have been the other night she said I love you and I wasn't paying attention all that much and I accidentally said I love you too lol. But anyway thanks for the feedback man plus rep to you big time.

I would honestly be careful with staying as friends. Little story time. I was in a relationship like this in the past with a good amount of similarities. I was with a girl who lied to get her way, was apparently dating 4 other males, which I had no clue about and apparently her reason for dating them was for money (I literally can't even begin to go with how much she asked for things and if I said no, wouldn't even get a text or call for a few days.) I only found out about her other boyfriends when she started flirting with a friend of mine and saying how she was lonely and needs someone in her life to love her; started hinting to him that she was coming onto him and then he told me instantly. I don't know how he found out, but somehow I am invited to a Skype group with her other boyfriends so we could figure out what the hell was going on. We were all in a Skype call for a good couple of hours talking about the whole situation, in the end, everyone ended up breaking up with her. She messaged me and everyone else she was going to kill herself because of this. No one took her back and I had nothing to say to her. For the next month, almost every day she was texting me about how she's all depressed, stopped eating and was going to take her life that night, which she never did. I finally broke the silence and told her I would be fine with remaining as friends, which she was fine with, but that was a huge mistake. She kept the same thing up as before, threatening to kill herself because she couldn't get her way, then she went as low as to try and lie to get me to feel bad, how her dog died, then her mom died, and all of this stuff, how she's living on the street and needs a place to stay. I messaged one of her ex's from the Skype group, she's doing the same exact thing to him. I didn't say anything, just let it play out and eventually stopped replying. Skip ahead a few months. I'm in a new relationship which has now turned into an engagement. My ex starts texting me how she wants us to get back together, how she's changed and all of this crap. I told her no, I am in a relationship and I am actually happy. Same thing repeated again, she threatens to kill herself because she couldn't get her way. Finally, I had enough and just changed my phone number. It's been a few years since I had my number changed, and I feel so much better. Even as "friends" that whole situation was stressful as due to how low a person was willing to go to try and get their way. I didn't need that in my life and my fiance (girlfriend at the time) didn't need it either.

Back to your situation, I don't know how far she will be willing to go like an ex of mine did. However if you want to remain friends, make sure she gets it through her mind that it's friends only; any chance of love was completely killed. You should also be prepared to end the friendship if it gets to the point that she is trying to guilt trip you or even trap you into becoming more than friends or if she's even trying to trap you into talking to her. Don't let a person have that control over you, male or female.

Best of luck with the whole situation, I know it's a shitty one.

TaigaAisaka wrote

XeCookie_ wrote

TaigaAisaka wrote I'm going to be brutally honest, but I don't think this relationship is meant for either of you. At first it started with her trying to control you where she would take her life if you didn't say with her. How serious was she, that's debatable. Cutting her wrist can be a way to try and "prove" to you she would take her life but then again, that's all it could be, just to try you in the relationship. Then you went and cheated on her. There's no excuse for that. If you don't want to be with someone, just break up, there is no reason to cheat on them and hope they don't find out. The same goes with her, she did the exact same, which almost sounds like at first it was to "get back" at you for cheating. Your first clue that this wouldn't work out, is when it was agreed "hey we're even since we both cheated, let's get back together!" That's just opening doors for issues to arise. Which, she went ahead and has done multiple times since then.

The relationship isn't meant for either of you, it's become toxic, full of lies, you don't trust her anymore (not sure if she trusts you,) it might once again get to a point of trying to control who and as many times as the relationship has been cheated on; I think it's best for your sake and hers to just move on. You can't really see how a person can change through a message, it's really easy to type what people want to hear without any real emotion to go off of. If you take her back, you're pretty much showing her you'll bend over for her, which again, comes back to the control/power struggle of the relationship that started all of this; from there you're going to wonder ever day "Am I going to get cheated on again?" I wouldn't want that stress in a relationship because you'll only see things as negative with her.

I like this Peace of feedback man and that is how I feel just the thought of her brings up the thought of her cheating on me so when I think of her I think about how she hurt me and did what she did and the trust is out the window if it was a life or death situation and I was depending on her I would say screw it and die. So I'm just gonna talk to her as a friend like I have been the other night she said I love you and I wasn't paying attention all that much and I accidentally said I love you too lol. But anyway thanks for the feedback man plus rep to you big time.

I would honestly be careful with staying as friends. Little story time. I was in a relationship like this in the past with a good amount of similarities. I was with a girl who lied to get her way, was apparently dating 4 other males, which I had no clue about and apparently her reason for dating them was for money (I literally can't even begin to go with how much she asked for things and if I said no, wouldn't even get a text or call for a few days.) I only found out about her other boyfriends when she started flirting with a friend of mine and saying how she was lonely and needs someone in her life to love her; started hinting to him that she was coming onto him and then he told me instantly. I don't know how he found out, but somehow I am invited to a Skype group with her other boyfriends so we could figure out what the hell was going on. We were all in a Skype call for a good couple of hours talking about the whole situation, in the end, everyone ended up breaking up with her. She messaged me and everyone else she was going to kill herself because of this. No one took her back and I had nothing to say to her. For the next month, almost every day she was texting me about how she's all depressed, stopped eating and was going to take her life that night, which she never did. I finally broke the silence and told her I would be fine with remaining as friends, which she was fine with, but that was a huge mistake. She kept the same thing up as before, threatening to kill herself because she couldn't get her way, then she went as low as to try and lie to get me to feel bad, how her dog died, then her mom died, and all of this stuff, how she's living on the street and needs a place to stay. I messaged one of her ex's from the Skype group, she's doing the same exact thing to him. I didn't say anything, just let it play out and eventually stopped replying. Skip ahead a few months. I'm in a new relationship which has now turned into an engagement. My ex starts texting me how she wants us to get back together, how she's changed and all of this crap. I told her no, I am in a relationship and I am actually happy. Same thing repeated again, she threatens to kill herself because she couldn't get her way. Finally, I had enough and just changed my phone number. It's been a few years since I had my number changed, and I feel so much better. Even as "friends" that whole situation was stressful as due to how low a person was willing to go to try and get their way. I didn't need that in my life and my fiance (girlfriend at the time) didn't need it either.

Back to your situation, I don't know how far she will be willing to go like an ex of mine did. However if you want to remain friends, make sure she gets it through her mind that it's friends only; any chance of love was completely killed. You should also be prepared to end the friendship if it gets to the point that she is trying to guilt trip you or even trap you into becoming more than friends or if she's even trying to trap you into talking to her. Don't let a person have that control over you, male or female.

Best of luck with the whole situation, I know it's a shitty one.

Thanks sm for the feed back i plus repped again and im gonna add you and maybe pm you sometime for some advice if you wouldnt mind.