Black_Flag wrote

XRV6 wrote If any of you know me from a bit ago, I posted about my proposal to my now wife, well, some stuff has happened lately, and she wasn't the most loyal person the past few weeks, we talked about it, we said we'd put it behind us and go forward, and that these things would never happen again. Nothing physically happened, so it didn't hit me as hard as something like that could have.

But tonight, I will find out if she's truly put it behind her, or if she just got better at hiding it.

Honestly, I just wanted to type this out and vent for a sec, but if anyone is interested in this, I may update this with what ever happens.

I hope it works out man. Sucks when that type of stuff happens. What are you gonna do if you find out its true

Honestly, I'm not sure. I'm probably gonna leave the house for a few nights, and leave her to her thoughts. The way I see it, why would anyone ruin a good relationship or marriage, for a single night of fun with someone else?

I lost my ex because during the times that Ashley Madison stuff was being leaked, I searched her name and found her in it, using frequently too, so that's when I broke that off, but this is my first, and hopefully my last marriage, so I'm hoping it ends well tonight.

XRV6 wrote

Black_Flag wrote

XRV6 wrote If any of you know me from a bit ago, I posted about my proposal to my now wife, well, some stuff has happened lately, and she wasn't the most loyal person the past few weeks, we talked about it, we said we'd put it behind us and go forward, and that these things would never happen again. Nothing physically happened, so it didn't hit me as hard as something like that could have.

But tonight, I will find out if she's truly put it behind her, or if she just got better at hiding it.

Honestly, I just wanted to type this out and vent for a sec, but if anyone is interested in this, I may update this with what ever happens.

I hope it works out man. Sucks when that type of stuff happens. What are you gonna do if you find out its true

Honestly, I'm not sure. I'm probably gonna leave the house for a few nights, and leave her to her thoughts. The way I see it, why would anyone ruin a good relationship or marriage, for a single night of fun with someone else?

I lost my ex because during the times that Ashley Madison stuff was being leaked, I searched her name and found her in it, using frequently too, so that's when I broke that off, but this is my first, and hopefully my last marriage, so I'm hoping it ends well tonight.

man that really blows. If you find out that she is don't freak out. Just get yourself or her out of the house and get ready for what's next. If you've already given her a chance and she blew off your trust again than she will just continue to

Black_Flag wrote

XRV6 wrote

Black_Flag wrote

XRV6 wrote If any of you know me from a bit ago, I posted about my proposal to my now wife, well, some stuff has happened lately, and she wasn't the most loyal person the past few weeks, we talked about it, we said we'd put it behind us and go forward, and that these things would never happen again. Nothing physically happened, so it didn't hit me as hard as something like that could have.

But tonight, I will find out if she's truly put it behind her, or if she just got better at hiding it.

Honestly, I just wanted to type this out and vent for a sec, but if anyone is interested in this, I may update this with what ever happens.

I hope it works out man. Sucks when that type of stuff happens. What are you gonna do if you find out its true

Honestly, I'm not sure. I'm probably gonna leave the house for a few nights, and leave her to her thoughts. The way I see it, why would anyone ruin a good relationship or marriage, for a single night of fun with someone else?

I lost my ex because during the times that Ashley Madison stuff was being leaked, I searched her name and found her in it, using frequently too, so that's when I broke that off, but this is my first, and hopefully my last marriage, so I'm hoping it ends well tonight.

man that really blows. If you find out that she is don't freak out. Just get yourself or her out of the house and get ready for what's next. If you've already given her a chance and she blew off your trust again than she will just continue to

I'm gonna find out tonight, and if she is, the house is hers, no biggie, I own two houses actually, this one I bought, and one was left for me in a relatives will, it's a sad way to obtain a house, but it's an option. We have no kids either, but if she can't be happy with just me, then she's gonna have to deal with no me.

Let me know what goes down

Never really understood why people can't just stay loyal. I've never even had a thought of cheating. It just doesn't cross my mind, and I'll end a relationship way before I cheat. I think that is why people say once a cheater, always a cheater. It might be a mindset, maybe the person can't settle down, or enough is never enough for them. I really don't know man, but it sucks. I can't imagine the feeling, I hope it works out for the best. Trust has to be earned, things just can't go right back to normal, that's always the hard part.

6LACK wrote Never really understood why people can't just stay loyal. I've never even had a thought of cheating. It just doesn't cross my mind, and I'll end a relationship way before I cheat. I think that is why people say once a cheater, always a cheater. It might be a mindset, maybe the person can't settle down, or enough is never enough for them. I really don't know man, but it sucks. I can't imagine the feeling, I hope it works out for the best. Trust has to be earned, things just can't go right back to normal, that's always the hard part.

Her and I have always been straight forward with our feelings, none of that "I have eyes only for you" stuff, everybody notices other people, but that's the neat thing about having a wife who's bisexual, if I look at other women, she does the same, except when she looks at guys I don't, being straight and all lol, but that stuff has never bothered me, or her, we both look at other people, but nothing physical has ever happened, and we both have always gone to bed knowing that our hearts belong with each other.

I'm the type of guy that focuses more on why things happen rather than that things happened, so I've gone through countless scenarios about how a new marriage might be tense for her, never having been married, it's tense for me too but people handle things differently. Maybe it could have been her way of having a thrill, and she showed me the texts, it was a guy that lives over 1k miles away, and it was just pictures, but her being my wife and all, I feel like that shouldn't have happened, so it's a bit... complicated.

XRV6 wrote

6LACK wrote Never really understood why people can't just stay loyal. I've never even had a thought of cheating. It just doesn't cross my mind, and I'll end a relationship way before I cheat. I think that is why people say once a cheater, always a cheater. It might be a mindset, maybe the person can't settle down, or enough is never enough for them. I really don't know man, but it sucks. I can't imagine the feeling, I hope it works out for the best. Trust has to be earned, things just can't go right back to normal, that's always the hard part.

Her and I have always been straight forward with our feelings, none of that "I have eyes only for you" stuff, everybody notices other people, but that's the neat thing about having a wife who's bisexual, if I look at other women, she does the same, except when she looks at guys I don't, being straight and all lol, but that stuff has never bothered me, or her, we both look at other people, but nothing physical has ever happened, and we both have always gone to bed knowing that our hearts belong with each other.

I'm the type of guy that focuses more on why things happen rather than that things happened, so I've gone through countless scenarios about how a new marriage might be tense for her, never having been married, it's tense for me too but people handle things differently. Maybe it could have been her way of having a thrill, and she showed me the texts, it was a guy that lives over 1k miles away, and it was just pictures, but her being my wife and all, I feel like that shouldn't have happened, so it's a bit... complicated.

it shouldn't have happened. Women are very emotionally driven. That ties with sexual stuff so she's not getting what she needs from you so she's trying to find someone else

Black_Flag wrote

XRV6 wrote

6LACK wrote Never really understood why people can't just stay loyal. I've never even had a thought of cheating. It just doesn't cross my mind, and I'll end a relationship way before I cheat. I think that is why people say once a cheater, always a cheater. It might be a mindset, maybe the person can't settle down, or enough is never enough for them. I really don't know man, but it sucks. I can't imagine the feeling, I hope it works out for the best. Trust has to be earned, things just can't go right back to normal, that's always the hard part.

Her and I have always been straight forward with our feelings, none of that "I have eyes only for you" stuff, everybody notices other people, but that's the neat thing about having a wife who's bisexual, if I look at other women, she does the same, except when she looks at guys I don't, being straight and all lol, but that stuff has never bothered me, or her, we both look at other people, but nothing physical has ever happened, and we both have always gone to bed knowing that our hearts belong with each other.

I'm the type of guy that focuses more on why things happen rather than that things happened, so I've gone through countless scenarios about how a new marriage might be tense for her, never having been married, it's tense for me too but people handle things differently. Maybe it could have been her way of having a thrill, and she showed me the texts, it was a guy that lives over 1k miles away, and it was just pictures, but her being my wife and all, I feel like that shouldn't have happened, so it's a bit... complicated.

it shouldn't have happened. Women are very emotionally driven. That ties with sexual stuff so she's not getting what she needs from you so she's trying to find someone else

But not knowing what she needs is driving me crazy, her and I have both have our flaws, my biggest is me being on the autism spectrum, very mildly, but it does affect how I behave, I like to think of it as just a different way to view the world. I taught myself to keep eye contact with others, I have friends, I have excellent interpersonal skills, and I've achieved what doctors refer to as "neurotypical", most people never catch on unless I tell them straight up that I'm autistic, and hers is more on the physical side, she's had a paralyzed limb since birth, but truthfully, it doesn't bother me one bit.

She's always had an independence thing, but I make special exceptions for her, because she let me after being together for so long, like I do the laundry, and the dishes, I make dinner every night, I even help her in and out of the shower because we have that type of connection, so I'm trying to figure out what more I can do, what more I can be, to make her happy with just myself.

(For those wondering about the learning curve with autism, it ranges all over the spectrum, for me, I straight up failed stuff like math, and English, even though I have excellent typing skills and very high literacy, I just didn't care for those classes, but HTML and PHP I passed with a 117% by the end of those classes, because they interested me, it was something I didn't already know and I liked it, I could do a separate post about that if people are interested.)

XRV6 wrote

Black_Flag wrote

XRV6 wrote

6LACK wrote Never really understood why people can't just stay loyal. I've never even had a thought of cheating. It just doesn't cross my mind, and I'll end a relationship way before I cheat. I think that is why people say once a cheater, always a cheater. It might be a mindset, maybe the person can't settle down, or enough is never enough for them. I really don't know man, but it sucks. I can't imagine the feeling, I hope it works out for the best. Trust has to be earned, things just can't go right back to normal, that's always the hard part.

Her and I have always been straight forward with our feelings, none of that "I have eyes only for you" stuff, everybody notices other people, but that's the neat thing about having a wife who's bisexual, if I look at other women, she does the same, except when she looks at guys I don't, being straight and all lol, but that stuff has never bothered me, or her, we both look at other people, but nothing physical has ever happened, and we both have always gone to bed knowing that our hearts belong with each other.

I'm the type of guy that focuses more on why things happen rather than that things happened, so I've gone through countless scenarios about how a new marriage might be tense for her, never having been married, it's tense for me too but people handle things differently. Maybe it could have been her way of having a thrill, and she showed me the texts, it was a guy that lives over 1k miles away, and it was just pictures, but her being my wife and all, I feel like that shouldn't have happened, so it's a bit... complicated.

it shouldn't have happened. Women are very emotionally driven. That ties with sexual stuff so she's not getting what she needs from you so she's trying to find someone else

But not knowing what she needs is driving me crazy, her and I have both have our flaws, my biggest is me being on the autism spectrum, very mildly, but it does affect how I behave, I like to think of it as just a different way to view the world. I taught myself to keep eye contact with others, I have friends, I have excellent interpersonal skills, and I've achieved what doctors refer to as "neurotypical", most people never catch on unless I tell them straight up that I'm autistic, and hers is more on the physical side, she's had a paralyzed limb since birth, but truthfully, it doesn't bother me one bit.

She's always had an independence thing, but I make special exceptions for her, because she let me after being together for so long, like I do the laundry, and the dishes, I make dinner every night, I even help her in and out of the shower because we have that type of connection, so I'm trying to figure out what more I can do, what more I can be, to make her happy with just myself.

(For those wondering about the learning curve with autism, it ranges all over the spectrum, for me, I straight up failed stuff like math, and English, even though I have excellent typing skills and very high literacy, I just didn't care for those classes, but HTML and PHP I passed with a 117% by the end of those classes, because they interested me, it was something I didn't already know and I liked it, I could do a separate post about that if people are interested.)

lady thing you need to do is blame yourself. If someone in a relationship needs more or something else than you need to tell the other person. Not sit there and send pictures to other guys

Maybe shes doing it for attention? have you been busy with other stuff recently