Silky wrote

You cheated on her but can't stand any other females?
Brought it on yourself mate.

Thanks for reminding me, I'm asking for support not to throw shade. I've never cheated on someone before . I honestly don't know what I was thinking. We both had our problems, she has lied to me before , we both kinda **** each other up with time..

-Jord wrote I'd imagine shes your first love?

How old are you for a start? I imagine you're a young guy with your life ahead of you. If you truly messed up and she isn't interested anymore then move on

I know it's hard to do so and it feels like the wrong thing to do, but the thing you got to think about is that you have your WHOLE life ahead of you, you will meet someone in due time and you won't even look back

It's all part of life and growing up

Source: I've done it

We both are 20, and no this would be my third serious relationship. I've been in awful relationships before with cheating and lying .. I never seen myself becoming a monster.

Gazorpazorp wrote

Famous wrote What did you do though? I need to know to even try and give a suggestion

I didn't wanna get too in depth but I cheated on her, but like I can't stand any other female . Like I don't see myself with anyone besides her. And she's so heartbroken over it, like I've tried so hard to fix this but nothing has worked. I don't wanna lose her for good

Probably the only thing you can do is just give her some space and in a couple of weeks or months try to become friends with her again and build ya trust back up. But sorry to say, If ya were already having trust issues then I don't see her trusting you ever again.

Gazorpazorp wrote

Famous wrote What did you do though? I need to know to even try and give a suggestion

I didn't wanna get too in depth but I cheated on her, but like I can't stand any other female . Like I don't see myself with anyone besides her. And she's so heartbroken over it, like I've tried so hard to fix this but nothing has worked. I don't wanna lose her for good

That my friend is where you screwed up I would hate to be the burden of bad news but even if you get her back it will never be the same I had a similar situation and ended up getting her back and then the trust issues were through the roof but hey whose to blame but yourself this could go multiple ways. You could end up never getting her back, you could get her back and just have a terrible relationship due to trust issues or you could get her back and then likely she will cheat on you to get back at you (what happened to me and a few people I know) so either way IMO you screwed yourself it will be a lose lose situation. Regardless I wish the best of luck man and all I can say is if you really want her back fight, fight, fight.

EDIT: If you need any help or further advice feel free to PM me I know how it feels because as I said I been in this type of scenario.

-Moonshine wrote

Gazorpazorp wrote

Famous wrote What did you do though? I need to know to even try and give a suggestion

I didn't wanna get too in depth but I cheated on her, but like I can't stand any other female . Like I don't see myself with anyone besides her. And she's so heartbroken over it, like I've tried so hard to fix this but nothing has worked. I don't wanna lose her for good

Probably the only thing you can do is just give her some space and in a couple of weeks or months try to become friends with her again and build ya trust back up. But sorry to say, If ya were already having trust issues then I don't see her trusting you ever again.

The thing is, she started this trend of lying to me. Like after we broke up she brought up some stuff about he second time we broke up. Like she lied about what she did with this guy, and I knew deep down something happen but I just pushed it to the side. Then after we break up she comes clean about it, like how am I suppose to trust someone that kept a lie over a year ? Idk this is a mess

I don't know fam, cheating on someone who you've been with for that long isn't alright.

I know that for me, cheating is 100% we are done and I'll never speak to you cuz you did it once and you can/will do it again. Even if we have been together for 20 years, you cheat we are done.

Probably how she feels but good luck, family.

XeCookie_ wrote

Gazorpazorp wrote

Famous wrote What did you do though? I need to know to even try and give a suggestion

I didn't wanna get too in depth but I cheated on her, but like I can't stand any other female . Like I don't see myself with anyone besides her. And she's so heartbroken over it, like I've tried so hard to fix this but nothing has worked. I don't wanna lose her for good

That my friend is where you screwed up I would hate to be the burden of bad news but even if you get her back it will never be the same I had a similar situation and ended up getting her back and then the trust issues were through the roof but hey whose to blame but yourself this could go multiple ways. You could end up never getting her back, you could get her back and just have a terrible relationship due to trust issues or you could get her back and then likely she will cheat on you to get back at you (what happened to me and a few people I know) so either way IMO you screwed yourself it will be a lose lose situation. Regardless I wish the best of luck man and all I can say is if you really want her back fight, fight, fight.

EDIT: If you need any help or further advice feel free to PM me I know how it feels because as I said I been in this type of scenario.

Thanks man, just need some other input on this..

Gazorpazorp wrote

-Jord wrote I'd imagine shes your first love?

How old are you for a start? I imagine you're a young guy with your life ahead of you. If you truly messed up and she isn't interested anymore then move on

I know it's hard to do so and it feels like the wrong thing to do, but the thing you got to think about is that you have your WHOLE life ahead of you, you will meet someone in due time and you won't even look back

It's all part of life and growing up

Source: I've done it

We both are 20, and no this would be my third serious relationship. I've been in awful relationships before with cheating and lying .. I never seen myself becoming a monster.

Cheating happens, some people can deal with it, some can't. I'd recommend giving her some time and space and seeing how things pan out, but I do advise looking at the bigger picture

You say she probably won't ever trust you again and if you do get back together it will become a seriously toxic relationship and you will argue a lot due to trust issues. So that would be something you'd need to be prepared for, because that shit will cause a break up quickly

Whatever you do I'm sure will be the right decision however I will encourage you not to commit yourself to one individual at the age of 20, it sucks to lose her I get that, but life is too short and the cliche saying is 'plenty more fish in the sea'

-Jord wrote

Gazorpazorp wrote

-Jord wrote I'd imagine shes your first love?

How old are you for a start? I imagine you're a young guy with your life ahead of you. If you truly messed up and she isn't interested anymore then move on

I know it's hard to do so and it feels like the wrong thing to do, but the thing you got to think about is that you have your WHOLE life ahead of you, you will meet someone in due time and you won't even look back

It's all part of life and growing up

Source: I've done it

We both are 20, and no this would be my third serious relationship. I've been in awful relationships before with cheating and lying .. I never seen myself becoming a monster.

Cheating happens, some people can deal with it, some can't. I'd recommend giving her some time and space and seeing how things pan out, but I do advise looking at the bigger picture

You say she probably won't ever trust you again and if you do get back together it will become a seriously toxic relationship and you will argue a lot due to trust issues. So that would be something you'd need to be prepared for, because that shit will cause a break up quickly

Whatever you do I'm sure will be the right decision however I will encourage you not to commit yourself to one individual at the age of 20, it sucks to lose her I get that, but life is too short and the cliche saying is 'plenty more fish in the sea'

I know, but I can't see myself loving another person like her. She's literally perfect in my eyes. The moment I see her I can't be mad or anything . Like whatever she did I don't care anymore because i just want her back. I know she has similar feelings because we still see each other every now and then . We are attracted to each other heavily.

-Jord wrote

Gazorpazorp wrote

-Jord wrote I'd imagine shes your first love?

How old are you for a start? I imagine you're a young guy with your life ahead of you. If you truly messed up and she isn't interested anymore then move on

I know it's hard to do so and it feels like the wrong thing to do, but the thing you got to think about is that you have your WHOLE life ahead of you, you will meet someone in due time and you won't even look back

It's all part of life and growing up

Source: I've done it

We both are 20, and no this would be my third serious relationship. I've been in awful relationships before with cheating and lying .. I never seen myself becoming a monster.

Cheating happens, some people can deal with it, some can't. I'd recommend giving her some time and space and seeing how things pan out, but I do advise looking at the bigger picture

You say she probably won't ever trust you again and if you do get back together it will become a seriously toxic relationship and you will argue a lot due to trust issues. So that would be something you'd need to be prepared for, because that shit will cause a break up quickly

Whatever you do I'm sure will be the right decision however I will encourage you not to commit yourself to one individual at the age of 20, it sucks to lose her I get that, but life is too short and the cliche saying is 'plenty more fish in the sea'

Deep shit bro, deep shit.