LGW wrote

Okay serious topic here guys, just seeing if people are on the same boat as my friends.

Accidents happen and it turns out I'm going to be a Dad

Instead of beating around the bush and sugar coating everything, i'm going to keep it very real and speak to you with logic.

Their is no such thing as accidents. Only people who have an incomplete mindset believe that. Cumming in a girl with or without a condom on isn't an accident. BC isn't 1000%; i don't even trust it, and going for 3 extra pumps isn't worth an "oops". No whispered sweet-nothing is.

There is no guarantee you two will stay together for the children, and if you do you're doing it all for the wrong reasons. If my parents were to 'stay together for the children', that wouldn't be the right move because it would still be a toxic environment. Even if you split, you're tied for life by children. This woman no matter the relationship will always be involved in some way, shape, or form.

With the way technology is, finding a s/o that's more handsome, pretty, wealthy, security etc etc etc is far more easy than it's ever been. You've been together 5 months, she's got a kid, and she's ready to have your kid. Those right there are ginormous red flags but hey, you can't help who you love.

Yes, too soon is a huge thing and this is one of those moments. You haven't known her for half a year yet she's ok having your seed.

Don't get it twisted and think i'm raining on your parade, instead i'm being very honest giving you real world situations that hundreds of millions go through every day. Congratulations on being a dad, with the right mindset, discipline and tools you'll be fine. Remember, just because you have kids that doesn't make you a father. May luck be forever in your favor.

Brandon wrote

LGW wrote

Okay serious topic here guys, just seeing if people are on the same boat as my friends.

Accidents happen and it turns out I'm going to be a Dad

Instead of beating around the bush and sugar coating everything, i'm going to keep it very real and speak to you with logic.

Their is no such thing as accidents. Only people who have an incomplete mindset believe that. Cumming in a girl with or without a condom on isn't an accident. BC isn't 1000%; i don't even trust it, and going for 3 extra pumps isn't worth an "oops". No whispered sweet-nothing is.

There is no guarantee you two will stay together for the children, and if you do you're doing it all for the wrong reasons. If my parents were to 'stay together for the children', that wouldn't be the right move because it would still be a toxic environment. Even if you split, you're tied for life by children. This woman no matter the relationship will always be involved in some way, shape, or form.

With the way technology is, finding a s/o that's more handsome, pretty, wealthy, security etc etc etc is far more easy than it's ever been. You've been together 5 months, she's got a kid, and she's ready to have your kid. Those right there are ginormous red flags but hey, you can't help who you love.

Yes, too soon is a huge thing and this is one of those moments. You haven't known her for half a year yet she's ok having your seed.

Don't get it twisted and think i'm raining on your parade, instead i'm being very honest giving you real world situations that hundreds of millions go through every day. Congratulations on being a dad, with the right mindset, discipline and tools you'll be fine. Remember, just because you have kids that doesn't make you a father. May luck be forever in your favor.

Have to say I agree. I'm only 21 and I'm married. We have a 2 year old and a 3 month old. We are together because of each other, not the kids. If you center the whole relationship on the fact that she's going to be giving birth to your spawn, then in no way will the relationship work.

Ultimately it is your choice, but id say too soon. I had kids too soon and I got married too soon. May seem happy, but there are a lot of days where you will realize that it isn't what you wanted. Although, considering she's already pregnant, no matter what you two will always be in each others lives as it is.

Man me and my girl were together around 2 months and she got pregnant. Shit happens. My two kids were the best thing to ever happen to me!

Congrats on becoming a dad dude.