You are viewing our Forum Archives. To view or take place in current topics click here.
7 tips on how to get a GirlFriend *UPDATED 1/29/2011*
Posted:
7 tips on how to get a GirlFriend *UPDATED 1/29/2011*Posted:
Status: Offline
Joined: Aug 18, 201014Year Member
Posts: 1,847
Reputation Power: 80
Status: Offline
Joined: Aug 18, 201014Year Member
Posts: 1,847
Reputation Power: 80
Here's my girlfriend i had to put a picture up because called me gay (Im 16):
Tip 1:
Be Happy and Smile A Lot
If you are not happy here is the brutal, cold truth: no girl is going to want to be with you. After all, would you want to be with a girl who was miserable? This is a common relationship concept. Smile! Smile a lot! Smiling is perhaps one of the most attractive things people do socially, because when another sees you smile, they often register that image with the association of their own smile, which in turn will make them feel happy too. Laughing is also contagious, but again - don't laugh at something you don't think is funny. Just be sure to let yourself laugh when it's appropriate.
Tip 2:
Make every word that comes out of your mouth purposeful and meaningful
Everything you say should have a purpose behind it. Do not start saying things just to break a silence purely for the sake of breaking the silence. Do not say something just because you feel she's not paying enough attention to you and you want to chime in. Let things be, and find ways of tactfully speaking up when there is a reason to do so.
In the case of seduction, the patterns and language techniques give you ample opportunity to have a "strategic" conversation. These concepts not only apply to women, they apply to all aspects of your social life, and will even come in very handy for you in the business world.
Tip 3:
Develop a nonverbal communication and sense of rapport before even speaking to her.
Don't just go up the instant you see a girl - take a moment to study her movement. Match her breathing with your own. Take one of her mannerisms and adopt it as your own for a little bit. Play with this process, and see what works. What this does is builds an unconscious sense of commonality, and allows the conversation to flow both more comfortably, and with a higher level of initial attraction. The process is called "matching and mirroring," or sometimes just "mirroring." Give it a shot, but don't mimic - do not copy every tiny thing she does. Do not make it obvious.
Tip 4:
If the girl does not show interest in getting to know new people, you move on instantly.
This is not true at all with adult women, and the websites you will read on seduction do not take this antisocial, or socially retarded behavior into account. But this is something that with high school girls and even young college girls, you may encounter. Sometimes the most gorgeous girls you will ever meet are the ones that have had a close knit circle of friends that they NEVER leave for years - and you're not in it.
If she gives you a look that is irritated or "who are YOU" type expression, just say, "Nice meeting you," and walk away. If you want, you can stay and try to recover, but I'll warn you right now, especially if she is around friends, they'll find a way to push you out quickly. It's a battle you likely can't win.
Most of the "popular" girls in high school are actually a bit socially retarded. And I'm not kidding. You THINK they are "popular" because they're the ones that everyone knows about, but the reasons everyone knows about them may not be their nature. More likely, it's their looks, their actions at some party where they were acting stupid, their cruelty, or the guys they've dated. You can go after them if you like, but it's hit-or-miss.
The girls that I would go after if I were you are the ones that are often very close to by themselves, or totally by themselves at lunch - they will be more open to you than most of the ones that are with their little clique of friends.
While I know your aim is not to be "cool," in the common high school sense of the word, I can tell you something else. Having a girlfriend, in the world of high school (I don't know why, don't ask), DOES increase your level of popularity. And you know what? It doesn't even matter who the girl is, most of the time.
Tip 5:
Don't ever settle for anything less than everything you dream about.
Don't date a girl who has a great personality, but you don't find attractive. And of course, don't go out with a gorgeous girl who you absolutely hate on the inside. Find the WONDERFUL girls and spend as much time pursuing them as you please. Maybe they're the ones with a great reputation, maybe they're not. But if you date a girl who is wonderful in your view, she's likely to be wonderful in the view of others and the view of your friends. Be the first to be with her, and be the first to talk to her.
Thank you to infamybandit for the 6th tip
Tip 6:
Respect
Think about it you wouldn't want to date some one that treats you like garbage/crap all day. You would like somebody to help you in your time of need and give you some respect at times.
Tip 7:
Never say no
By this i mean going to places and hanging out with friends that are not exactly yours. Also, if she asks if she looks fat than that is the time to say no even if you think she is. By this concept of never saying "no" i mean if she wants to go someplace you take her there and not say this EVERY single time she asks, "Do we have to?" or "I'm busy can we do it later." You have to be outgoing and expand to things you didn't expect to try before you were friends.
I hope these tips help you later on or now
Last edited by Unsigned ; edited 8 times in total
Tip 1:
Be Happy and Smile A Lot
If you are not happy here is the brutal, cold truth: no girl is going to want to be with you. After all, would you want to be with a girl who was miserable? This is a common relationship concept. Smile! Smile a lot! Smiling is perhaps one of the most attractive things people do socially, because when another sees you smile, they often register that image with the association of their own smile, which in turn will make them feel happy too. Laughing is also contagious, but again - don't laugh at something you don't think is funny. Just be sure to let yourself laugh when it's appropriate.
Tip 2:
Make every word that comes out of your mouth purposeful and meaningful
Everything you say should have a purpose behind it. Do not start saying things just to break a silence purely for the sake of breaking the silence. Do not say something just because you feel she's not paying enough attention to you and you want to chime in. Let things be, and find ways of tactfully speaking up when there is a reason to do so.
In the case of seduction, the patterns and language techniques give you ample opportunity to have a "strategic" conversation. These concepts not only apply to women, they apply to all aspects of your social life, and will even come in very handy for you in the business world.
Tip 3:
Develop a nonverbal communication and sense of rapport before even speaking to her.
Don't just go up the instant you see a girl - take a moment to study her movement. Match her breathing with your own. Take one of her mannerisms and adopt it as your own for a little bit. Play with this process, and see what works. What this does is builds an unconscious sense of commonality, and allows the conversation to flow both more comfortably, and with a higher level of initial attraction. The process is called "matching and mirroring," or sometimes just "mirroring." Give it a shot, but don't mimic - do not copy every tiny thing she does. Do not make it obvious.
Tip 4:
If the girl does not show interest in getting to know new people, you move on instantly.
This is not true at all with adult women, and the websites you will read on seduction do not take this antisocial, or socially retarded behavior into account. But this is something that with high school girls and even young college girls, you may encounter. Sometimes the most gorgeous girls you will ever meet are the ones that have had a close knit circle of friends that they NEVER leave for years - and you're not in it.
If she gives you a look that is irritated or "who are YOU" type expression, just say, "Nice meeting you," and walk away. If you want, you can stay and try to recover, but I'll warn you right now, especially if she is around friends, they'll find a way to push you out quickly. It's a battle you likely can't win.
Most of the "popular" girls in high school are actually a bit socially retarded. And I'm not kidding. You THINK they are "popular" because they're the ones that everyone knows about, but the reasons everyone knows about them may not be their nature. More likely, it's their looks, their actions at some party where they were acting stupid, their cruelty, or the guys they've dated. You can go after them if you like, but it's hit-or-miss.
The girls that I would go after if I were you are the ones that are often very close to by themselves, or totally by themselves at lunch - they will be more open to you than most of the ones that are with their little clique of friends.
While I know your aim is not to be "cool," in the common high school sense of the word, I can tell you something else. Having a girlfriend, in the world of high school (I don't know why, don't ask), DOES increase your level of popularity. And you know what? It doesn't even matter who the girl is, most of the time.
Tip 5:
Don't ever settle for anything less than everything you dream about.
Don't date a girl who has a great personality, but you don't find attractive. And of course, don't go out with a gorgeous girl who you absolutely hate on the inside. Find the WONDERFUL girls and spend as much time pursuing them as you please. Maybe they're the ones with a great reputation, maybe they're not. But if you date a girl who is wonderful in your view, she's likely to be wonderful in the view of others and the view of your friends. Be the first to be with her, and be the first to talk to her.
Thank you to infamybandit for the 6th tip
Tip 6:
Respect
Think about it you wouldn't want to date some one that treats you like garbage/crap all day. You would like somebody to help you in your time of need and give you some respect at times.
Tip 7:
Never say no
By this i mean going to places and hanging out with friends that are not exactly yours. Also, if she asks if she looks fat than that is the time to say no even if you think she is. By this concept of never saying "no" i mean if she wants to go someplace you take her there and not say this EVERY single time she asks, "Do we have to?" or "I'm busy can we do it later." You have to be outgoing and expand to things you didn't expect to try before you were friends.
I hope these tips help you later on or now
Last edited by Unsigned ; edited 8 times in total
The following 1 user thanked Unsigned for this useful post:
Jens (01-29-2011)
#2. Posted:
Status: Offline
Joined: Jul 20, 201014Year Member
Posts: 10,122
Reputation Power: 101
Status: Offline
Joined: Jul 20, 201014Year Member
Posts: 10,122
Reputation Power: 101
Well, this was something different on the forums. But It may be helpful to the single ones!
- 0useful
- 0not useful
#3. Posted:
Status: Offline
Joined: Nov 17, 201014Year Member
Posts: 836
Reputation Power: 37
lol thanks...? ;) blah
- 0useful
- 0not useful
#4. Posted:
Status: Offline
Joined: Aug 18, 201014Year Member
Posts: 1,847
Reputation Power: 80
Status: Offline
Joined: Aug 18, 201014Year Member
Posts: 1,847
Reputation Power: 80
Joshyyyyyyy wrote Well, this was something different on the forums. But It may be helpful to the single ones!
Well it can help people so i am technically helping the community
- 0useful
- 0not useful
#5. Posted:
Status: Offline
Joined: Oct 24, 201014Year Member
Posts: 1,807
Reputation Power: 30
Status: Offline
Joined: Oct 24, 201014Year Member
Posts: 1,807
Reputation Power: 30
They may help idk but i already have one
- 0useful
- 0not useful
#6. Posted:
Status: Offline
Joined: Mar 08, 201014Year Member
Posts: 947
Reputation Power: 7
Status: Offline
Joined: Mar 08, 201014Year Member
Posts: 947
Reputation Power: 7
Joshyyyyyyy wrote Well, this was something different on the forums. But It may be helpful to the single ones!
Hey Josh can u send e link to your Sig? "santa" needs a new 1
- 0useful
- 0not useful
#7. Posted:
Status: Offline
Joined: Jul 22, 201014Year Member
Posts: 712
Reputation Power: 29
Status: Offline
Joined: Jul 22, 201014Year Member
Posts: 712
Reputation Power: 29
great. time to go gay >.>
lolwut
lolwut
- 2useful
- 2not useful
#8. Posted:
Status: Offline
Joined: Apr 28, 201014Year Member
Posts: 1,094
Reputation Power: 48
Status: Offline
Joined: Apr 28, 201014Year Member
Posts: 1,094
Reputation Power: 48
i bet you dont have a gf
- 0useful
- 0not useful
#9. Posted:
Status: Offline
Joined: Jul 17, 201014Year Member
Posts: 6,679
Reputation Power: 263
Status: Offline
Joined: Jul 17, 201014Year Member
Posts: 6,679
Reputation Power: 263
ummm this is stupid, if you want to get a girlfriend pay ateention of how you look
- 0useful
- 0not useful
#10. Posted:
Status: Offline
Joined: Sep 04, 201014Year Member
Posts: 2,663
Reputation Power: 134
Status: Offline
Joined: Sep 04, 201014Year Member
Posts: 2,663
Reputation Power: 134
Wougie made a post 4 this already.
- 0useful
- 0not useful
You are viewing our Forum Archives. To view or take place in current topics click here.