I absolutely hate talking about my personal life on this website, mainly because I think people really only do it for sympathy votes but I guess it could be cathartic in some kind of way, and because OP is describing a lot of what I'm feeling.

I'll keep the details vague because giving a time scale either seems like bragging or one-upmanship rather than addressing the feelings that come with any time scale.

My girlfriend of a very long time and I broke up recently, it was long enough to live together for a substantial length of time, it was long enough to go through countless cinema and meal dates, it was long enough for me to seriously consider popping the question and it was strong enough that we got through a miscarriage.
That all ended and was rendered a pointless waste of time in a single day, really a single conversation.

The worst part was that it didn't end because of anything that either of us had done to each other, it ended because of emotional problems she had stemming from childhood.
I wish I could place the blame on something I did or something she did which made it end, but it was like someone or something else came in and tore us apart.

OP said,

I starved myself, I didn't leave my room much at all, I neglected everything that was in my way because I was so
caught up on this break up that tore me to pieces that sucked me dry emotionally and physically

That really hits the nail on the head there, I've lost a genuinely stupid amount of weight in a very short amount of time and my house looks like a bombsite.
I still go to work because I know that doing something with my week is better than sitting at home and thinking about it.

I've heard all the things off people that OP has probably heard, I understand why it doesn't work to just try to feel better, and the very sad truth is that time doesn't heal all wounds. If you've let yourself fall so deeply in love with someone then you could still be thinking about her on a daily basis by the time you're 40. It'll be easier to bear but it's a reality you have to learn to live with.

I don't think the amount of time or the distance matters, I can see the arguments made as to why it would matter, but it's like saying that TaigaAisaka doesn't love his girlfriend as much as he could do because they don't live within walking distance of each other and see each other every day.
It just doesn't make sense to me.

I'll not get too heavily into the depression side of things which have come up on this topic, but loss can feel a lot like depression. Anyone who has ever grieved the death of a loved one knows this and it is like something has died for OP.

Someone said on this topic that you should wait around and keep trying to win her back, and that is as sure of a road to depression and suicide as I have ever heard. The vast, vast majority of relationships that end don't result in people getting back together.
If you keep trying to stay in love with her while watching her be with this new boyfriend you will never move on and she may never break up with him. You could be stuck in a state of emotional limbo for years waiting for something which will never come and that is a place you don't want to be.

I'd advise against trying to remain friends with her. This video is pretty poignant and it lays out why very well.
The Balloon thing is one of the best representations of being an ex I've ever seen to be honest.


The only truly good piece of advice I have been given is that in order to move on you have to be comfortable being alone. If you're not and you aren't happy with yourself then the only new people you will attract are people who will be wrong for you and it'll just start over again.

It could take time, it could take a quick trip to the edge of drug and alcohol induced insanity, but whatever it takes, it'll get better... maybe.



Well that was weird. Back to arguing with people over politics.

You feel like this after a 3 and a half month relationship? Not to be rude but imo that's just weird anyways shit happens in life relationships go people die we just have to deal with shit in our own way and try to move on from thing in the best way we can.

Breakups are the worst man, pick yourself back up as there is someone out there even better for you trust me

I agree with vial to an extent. Going through breakups can be rough. The reason I agree with him is for a few reasons. We all have our battles that we fight every day. You made a post that was strictly directed about your past relationship and how it made you feel, So for you to say we don't know what you go through on a daily is kind of irrelevant. The best thing I can tell you is to find something that interests you, Or keeps your mind away from that particular thing. There is no reason to take your own life over this.

I have been to hell and back over situations like this. Stuff that happened 6 years ago that I still have not forgot. I had to go see a damn doctor because of how bad it messed me up.I am not strictly referring that part over just a relationship, I cant even say what it's all about for legal reasons.It was more than just a women I was with, Or seeing everyday. Power through it dude. I am not sure how old you are, Assuming you are anywhere from 18-25, You have a whole life to live. If it didn't work out, There is a reason for it. Move on, Accept it, And keep on keep-oning.