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Don't flex, don't try to act cool, be yourself. If your picking her up on a date, and your driving hold the door open for her so she can get in. Then when y'all get to the spot be like I'll get the door for you. Always hold the door open and help her to her seat . Girls love gentlemen's man. When you first see her, give her compliments about her hair, how she dressed, her make up, let her know she has got your full attention. Once she knows that, then you'll have hers. Then if her conversation isn't exactly the kicker offer for y'alls date think of stuff you'd like to know about her man, like what the main thing in her life is a priority to her, what kind of things she like, favorite color, little things like this matters, cause it makes the girl think you actually care and are seriously interested. Most of all BE PAITIENT. Believe it or not if your too aggressive, you'll scare her off man, she's clearly interested in you so don't ruin that, take it slow. Obviously pay for the coffee, and when the time comes that the date ends, when you drop her off and you feel you had a great time, just say "I enjoyed this, and thank you for allowing me your time, if you would like to do this again in the future I'd love to. It's the little things that matter the most man, things that don't matter to us guys, it be the nail bitter for the females.

Take my advice homie, see that girl in my profile pic, yea that's my shit. Hit me up if you need some specific advice I'm here for you. Not if you just trying to smash and clear it, I can help with that too.


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Don't talk as much as maid either
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Detriment wrote Don't talk as much as maid either


Shit you need to take my advice to from my post. I got game child. Read and learn.
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Thanks Maid, I appreciate it!

How should I meet her? So we're meeting at Starbucks near her (she's walking there) so should I stay in my truck until I see her or should I wait inside, or where should I be? Also what do I do when I make the first interaction? I feel like a handshake is way too awkward but a hug may be too much? Neither one of us have been out on a date so that just adds to the awkwardness.
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be yourself be honest show kindness and respect women, girls like honesty and kindness and men that are themselves, if she does something you dont like tell her that you didnt like x and x or so and so ect, but yeah mainly be kind and be yourself theres no reason to act as someone else girls hate people who arent themselves
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002 wrote Thanks Maid, I appreciate it!

How should I meet her? So we're meeting at Starbucks near her (she's walking there) so should I stay in my truck until I see her or should I wait inside, or where should I be? Also what do I do when I make the first interaction? I feel like a handshake is way too awkward but a hug may be too much? Neither one of us have been out on a date so that just adds to the awkwardness.


Your gonna wanna stand outside of Starbucks and wait for her to come so you can hold the door open for her. When she comes give her a handshake and be like thank you allowing me your time. Handshake is he only thing really that would make sense l you guys are on your first day and don't know each other like that
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So it went pretty well, actually really well TBH. Of course the first interaction was super awkward. We ended up meeting at a different coffee place closer to her because she doesn't drive so it was easier. Anyway, I got there before her of course and the parking was perfect because I could park right outside the front door (like you have parking on the side walk, then the parking lot road thing, then more parking after so I parked in the parking after the road if that makes sense? So I wasn't too close but not too far), and she seen me but acted like she didn't so I didn't get the chance to open the door for her or anything. After that I followed her in and it was odd to get her attention but after I did everything was great. She offered to pay for her own drink, I insisted on paying but she said she's always more comfortable if she pays for it so I left it at that.

She's friends with like everyone in that coffee shop so she felt safe which was good. We were both super awkward and nervous at first so we both felt comfortable after that I guess? I don't know how to explain it but it was weird. She would stumble over her words and get scatter brained, honestly kinda cute lol. We were there for a couple hours and she said we should get something to eat, so we got dinner at a Mexican place. Diner was also full of really good conversation and then we decided to go see a movie.

Long story short, there was never a dull moment after the awkward meeting stage, our date lasted a little over 8 hours lol and she trusted me enough to let me take her home. She texted me saying thanks for today and that we should do it again some time so I think today was definitely a great start!
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Dude bumble sucks bro, the ladies have to message you first within 24 hours or they go away.... i dont know about you but ladies dont ever message first on dating apps.... lol.

But just be yourself and have fun on the date.
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Boobson wrote Listen here 002,

I myself have been on 10's of thousands of dates if not millions, I navigate through tinder better then my own neighborhood (I've lived here 15 years).

First off you're off to a good start you have nothing to be worried about the fact that she is initiating meeting up is a great sign shes a lioness and she has spotted her prey (you). With her initiating it shows she has some dominance in her which is a good sign cause that will come into play during your first date or two when there is the possibility of an awkward silence or a new conversation topic needs to be brought into the game.

Okay for the date part, coffee is a great first date it can either be super fast if you need to abort mission or it can carry on for awhile as both parties get lost in conversation and great connection is made. You need to be yourself on the first date this is crucial, you cant pretend to be somebody you arent because what happens if the dates progress you end up in a fake relationship. Don't be afraid to talk about your interests you guys gotta find some stuff in common just think of it like fishing your interests is the bait and you need to cast it out there to see if shes interested on your bait (common interests is key to keep conversation flowing). Your past conversations are great playing cards to keep in your back pocket if conversation ever seems stale just ask a question about something you guys have had a previous conversation on this could be something as simply just asking a question.

After checking out a few of your posts you seem like a sick dude and you got that fresh f-350 king ranch you pick her up in that testosterone pumping machine you're gonna score points right off the start. I wouldn't bring up the ex thing right at the start that's something you could tell her down the road once you guys are comfortable with each other if you feel she would find it funny and wouldn't get jealous or act weird hearing the story.

Bro good luck let us know how it goes i'd stay away from the coffee man its gonna make you all shaky and anxious you don't wanna be all stunned on your first date


Just do exactly what Boobson has said. Just be confident and be yourself if it works it works if it doesn't then their is plenty of more fish in the sea.
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So she just texted me again this morning, long story short we're going out again next Friday!

Quick question though, she asked me out to a coffee date which was last night. Before we met up though she asked if it was a date. I'm not sure if that's because she's nervous about dating since she's never really been on a date or what that's about? We did talk about it last night though and she wasn't sure and still isn't sure what she wants but basically she's wanting to start out as friends and go from there.

That makes sense to me as you're supposed to "date your best friend" and all, but do you think she actually means that or am I more than likely in the forsaken friend zone?
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