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Stop trying to get in touch, you surrender all power. It becomes 100% on their terms.
If they do decide to get in touch you'll be like a puppy chasing the attention, and its rough.

As someone who struggled for years to move on, it honestly just doesn't help to hang on to hope.
If you're sure it's over, done. Then Purge yourself of the memories and what connects you to them and just focus on getting up in the morning.
Keep a routine, don't slump. Stay groomed, eat well and get out of the house. Happy environment helps so much.

You've just got to remember there is a reason you're not together, whether its your fault, there fault or just growing apart... it hasn't worked and probably wont. So don't run it through your head over and over. Lean on friends, make sure you're busy and when the time comes, don't feel bad about moving on. You owe them nothing, you're not together.

I hope you can move past this quickly, I didn't do anything above and I fell into depression that has been ongoing for over 8 years and effected so much of my life and held me back from living my life.
Don't be afraid to seek therapy/consultation if you feel you would benefit, there are free services to use.

But honestly the old saying really is true, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. And that doesn't need to be sexual. Just open yourself up to friendship, companionship and don't shut yourself away and hide, it really will damage you in the long term.

All the best bud

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Fens wrote Stop trying to get in touch, you surrender all power. It becomes 100% on their terms.
If they do decide to get in touch you'll be like a puppy chasing the attention, and its rough.

As someone who struggled for years to move on, it honestly just doesn't help to hang on to hope.
If you're sure it's over, done. Then Purge yourself of the memories and what connects you to them and just focus on getting up in the morning.
Keep a routine, don't slump. Stay groomed, eat well and get out of the house. Happy environment helps so much.

You've just got to remember there is a reason you're not together, whether its your fault, there fault or just growing apart... it hasn't worked and probably wont. So don't run it through your head over and over. Lean on friends, make sure you're busy and when the time comes, don't feel bad about moving on. You owe them nothing, you're not together.

I hope you can move past this quickly, I didn't do anything above and I fell into depression that has been ongoing for over 8 years and effected so much of my life and held me back from living my life.
Don't be afraid to seek therapy/consultation if you feel you would benefit, there are free services to use.

But honestly the old saying really is true, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. And that doesn't need to be sexual. Just open yourself up to friendship, companionship and don't shut yourself away and hide, it really will damage you in the long term.

All the best bud

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Awesome advise. Thanks so much, I really appreciate it!

Of course I will give it a few weeks for respect. Another hard part is snooping around and seeing what she is up to. I will just have to train my mind not to be tempted into doing this.

Thanks again
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Dont want to be the party pooper men but it wont get any easy for now i mean later on ofc it will be thing of the past , what you need to focus on is the things you wanna achieve , think about free adventerous life you never know what can come your way .. i been through this and trust me when i said to everyone even my own mother that i wouldnt find anybody anymore that i wasnt ever gunna get marry F this and that and well time pass someone came along and now we are marry with one lil boy lol im sharing this with you or anybody that reads this bc is okay to be upset, mad, sad, stress etc .. yes you are entitle to feel all that .. if you need shed couple tears go for it buddy we all human beings, but trust me it will get better iknow u heard it alot but waiting is always key .. iknow youll pull through HERE IN TTG WE ALL GOT YOUR BACK BRO WE FAMILY !
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Honestly it will take time bud.

You need to surround yourself with friends and family to keep you distracted and stay off social media if you can so you don't get tempted to check up on her if it you can just make yourself feel even more like shit.
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JE wrote Dont want to be the party pooper men but it wont get any easy for now i mean later on ofc it will be thing of the past , what you need to focus on is the things you wanna achieve , think about free adventerous life you never know what can come your way .. i been through this and trust me when i said to everyone even my own mother that i wouldnt find anybody anymore that i wasnt ever gunna get marry F this and that and well time pass someone came along and now we are marry with one lil boy lol im sharing this with you or anybody that reads this bc is okay to be upset, mad, sad, stress etc .. yes you are entitle to feel all that .. if you need shed couple tears go for it buddy we all human beings, but trust me it will get better iknow u heard it alot but waiting is always key .. iknow youll pull through HERE IN TTG WE ALL GOT YOUR BACK BRO WE FAMILY !
Thanks mate, much love
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All you can do it get on with it and forget it ever happened. as hard as it is to do that it's the best way, there is no point wallowing in self pity and crying and stuff bro that only makes you 100x worse, you might aswell be strong and say it is what it is, Life Goes On.

Give me a PM if you need someone to speak to though man.

hope you alright.
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Ahhh dude! I went through the same.... 4 years down the drain.
its been a year bro and im well happier than i ever was!
chin up i promise it gets better
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Just an update. Thanks for all the awesome messages I've had to the thread and PMs. It's really boosted my confidence in the scenario.

Really surprised by the amount of responses I got so thank you.

Doing my best to keep myself occupied, I'm at work as normal today and speaking to customers is really helping keeping my mind off it.

I just need to focus on eating now as I'm falling behind with this a little. I guess it's a huge change in my life that my mind and body was not prepared, anyone else had this sensation?

Thanks again all
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