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First off - "Oh another relationship / depression thread" I barely post here anymore.. Give me a break :p
I do try to help the community whenever I am not busy..

So.. I've been dating my beautiful girlfriend for 5 months now.. But the first week in I noticed that my depression got worse.. We had a week off so we both focus on our mental health... She has depression but takes anti-depressants. I on the other hand, am scared to go on to them..

What I am trying to say.. Is there something wrong with the relationship? I don't feel there is anything wrong with it. I think it's going great.. But I had sleepless nights worrying about her.. Waking up in sweating and really upset to the point of crying ( I started crying when i wake up last week... sucks i know.. ) I usually dated guys before.. But.. This is the girl i've been waiting for ^_^ ( Mmm Cringy I know. ) And i don't want to **** up by showing signs of it in case it worries her and it cause her depression to just kick everything .-. I am Bipolar.. Some days i feel really great and other days i feel like giving up.. Right now.. it's hard writing this..

The worse thing is.. We both know that something is bothering me.. She keeps bringing it up and I hate lying to her..

Any help would be appreciated..

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A relationship isnt gonna fix everything man in my opinion you should just end or it take a break you need to work on yourself.Im diagnosed with Mixed Anxiety- Depressive Disoder (MADD) I know how it feels.Take your meds man Its better than feeling like absolute shit most of the time.
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Vial wrote A relationship isnt gonna fix everything man in my opinion you should just end or it take a break you need to work on yourself.Im diagnosed with Mixed Anxiety- Depressive Disoder (MADD) I know how it feels.Take your meds man Its better than feeling like absolute shit most of the time.


I forgot to mention we are doing another break... 1 month this time .-.

I don't take meds... I know.. that may seem really stupid.. but.. Meh.. Always been scared of taking meds
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Vegvisir wrote
Vial wrote A relationship isnt gonna fix everything man in my opinion you should just end or it take a break you need to work on yourself.Im diagnosed with Mixed Anxiety- Depressive Disoder (MADD) I know how it feels.Take your meds man Its better than feeling like absolute shit most of the time.


I forgot to mention we are doing another break... 1 month this time .-.

I don't take meds... I know.. that may seem really stupid.. but.. Meh.. Always been scared of taking meds
What about therapy?
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i respect not taking meds man, i took many for awhile and it was hard to get off, one had crazy withdrawls. id avoid them as best you can
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Vial wrote
Vegvisir wrote
Vial wrote A relationship isnt gonna fix everything man in my opinion you should just end or it take a break you need to work on yourself.Im diagnosed with Mixed Anxiety- Depressive Disoder (MADD) I know how it feels.Take your meds man Its better than feeling like absolute shit most of the time.


I forgot to mention we are doing another break... 1 month this time .-.

I don't take meds... I know.. that may seem really stupid.. but.. Meh.. Always been scared of taking meds
What about therapy?


Thought about it .. Never been able to open up to anybody but my girlfriend and my bestfriend.. Always break down.
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Vegvisir wrote
Vial wrote
Vegvisir wrote
Vial wrote A relationship isnt gonna fix everything man in my opinion you should just end or it take a break you need to work on yourself.Im diagnosed with Mixed Anxiety- Depressive Disoder (MADD) I know how it feels.Take your meds man Its better than feeling like absolute shit most of the time.


I forgot to mention we are doing another break... 1 month this time .-.

I don't take meds... I know.. that may seem really stupid.. but.. Meh.. Always been scared of taking meds
What about therapy?


Thought about it .. Never been able to open up to anybody but my girlfriend and my bestfriend.. Always break down.
You should go to therapy bro Its hard to open up but you just go anyways.Im not gonna say shit gets better because it probably wont and not give you false hope.
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i see the only solution, break up and go to the psychologist
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Thanks for sharing your life with us !

I know how it feels like.
Now I'm 5 month in a relationship with my Girlfriend. Before I have met her, I had every week mental breakdowns. So it was very often that I'm thinking about suicide. For me was that the deepest point in my life.

Before the Relationship my girlfriend was more mental down as me. She has try to kill her self twice. Now she goes every week to a psychiatrist. Every time when she have a breakdown, I try to help her...

But she doesn't know about my thinking with suicide. She thinks that I'm a normal boy without any depressions... I have never told her about my feelings.

So every time when she have a breakdown, I help her. Therefore my own Mental Health goes down. But I never show it to her.
Last month it was very extreme, after her breakdown I decided to do a walk. Near to our House is a big river. I had think one hour about to jump.



I'm not really the person who share my mind with other.

Try to make the best with your situation. Try to talk about your problems with family or friends, if they could not help you go to a psychiatrist.

Do nothing what you regret.




Hope you understand what I try to tell you. Germans can't speak English very well.
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Junkrat wrote Thanks for sharing your life with us !

I know how it feels like.
Now I'm 5 month in a relationship with my Girlfriend. Before I have met her, I had every week mental breakdowns. So it was very often that I'm thinking about suicide. For me was that the deepest point in my life.

Before the Relationship my girlfriend was more mental down as me. She has try to kill her self twice. Now she goes every week to a psychiatrist. Every time when she have a breakdown, I try to help her...

But she doesn't know about my thinking with suicide. She thinks that I'm a normal boy without any depressions... I have never told her about my feelings.

So every time when she have a breakdown, I help her. Therefore my own Mental Health goes down. But I never show it to her.
Last month it was very extreme, after her breakdown I decided to do a walk. Near to our House is a big river. I had think one hour about to jump.



I'm not really the person who share my mind with other.

Try to make the best with your situation. Try to talk about your problems with family or friends, if they could not help you go to a psychiatrist.

Do nothing what you regret.




Hope you understand what I try to tell you. Germans can't speak English very well.


I do understand... I've had suicidal thoughts... Girlfriend has been pushing me to see a psychiatrist and to get me to take meds... So.. I've been trying to get comfortable with things like that... So.. Idk.. Maybe next week i'll try...
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